A mentor is an experienced and trusted adviser. Usually a mentor is older, but emotional growth can also be a factor.

Mentoring someone should be taken seriously by both parties. It should not be entered into lightly. There should be discussions and agreements between parties. Both people should have a clear understanding of what is involved and what are the goals. Without clear and defined goals and objectives, there will never be any progression.

It isn’t about teaching someone how to use their new toys or how to sit at someone’s feet. Mentoring is about every aspect of the lifestyle. It’s about guiding and advising. It’s about learning from someone that has experienced it and gaining information for personal growth. It’s about being open and self aware. It’s about taking the advice and applying it as it was intended.

A mentor is a “trusted” adviser. You need to trust that they have YOUR best interest at heart. You need to trust that there isn’t a hidden agenda. You need to trust that feedback is given openly and honestly. A mentor relationship that can develop is deep and meaningful, but it is not sexual. Once a relationship turns sexual, it changes the whole dynamic.

Here’s a good rule of thumb:

If you are fucking your mentor…they are NOT your mentor. They are…something else.

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